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I know I said this week I was going to post an erotic story, but I got fixated on this idea of an “Ask Annie” column, so…
Welcome to my first “Ask Annie” post!
Many of you ask me questions about sex or the sex industry, so I thought I’d use this column to answer some of your questions.
Disclaimer: The following advice comes from my own personal experience. These techniques may not be exactly right for every partner.
I came up with this particular idea because I am often asked about sexually pleasing a woman, so here is my personal advice on the subject.
Topics covered below include:
- Before Initiating Sex
- A Note On Clits
- How to Lick Pussy
- Problem with erections or achieving orgasm?
- How This Applies to Sessions With Me
You’ve probably heard that men have sex to relieve stress but women must already be relaxed before they can enjoy sex.
Here are some suggestions to help your woman relax…
- If she has housework or mom duties to finish before she can fuck you, help her finish them.
- Brush your teeth and wash your junk…even shower if you can. Put her favourite cologne on.
- If possible, convince her to have a nice bath. She’ll feel cleaner and more relaxed.
- Tell her she’s fucking sexy! Constantly!
- Rub lotion on her back after she bathes. Use long, caressing strokes and graze her breasts. Ask her if you can rub lotion into her breasts and ass.
- If you’re willing and she’s willing, get her to lie down and put lotion all over her body. Be a tease! No rushing into the good stuff yet! Slowwwww Dooooown! Your cock is ready to go but she’s just starting to think sexy thoughts.
A lot of men think of only one thing when they think of foreplay…eating pussy.
That’s great! I’m so glad you eat pussy.
However, there’s a lot more to foreplay than going down on a woman.
You want to get her to the point where there’s nothing she wants more than to feel your mouth on her pussy.
To do that, you need to slow down.
I can’t say how all women like this part of foreplay, but me, I like to be man-handled a little.
I like to feel a little dominated. Not in a scary way, of course. A passionate kiss, a firm embrace.
Kiss her neck. Ooh, stubble on the neck is amazing. Do that lightly behind the ear, then suck on her earlobe.
Do this for a minimum of 10 minutes alternating with kissing and teasing.
(I’m getting horny just imagining it!)
Take your time. Continue until you feel her responding and melting into the sensations, then keep going for awhile longer.
Squeeze her breasts gently (through her bra if she’s still wearing one).
Push your body against her but hold back from full assault mode. Women love to be teased.
One of the most sensual aspects of my massage sessions is that there are rules. We only go as far as my boundaries allow.
It forces us to enjoy the teasing for close to an hour and heightens the suspense of that final climax!
Be a tease. Don’t dive in.
Wait until she’s grabbing your cock before you start grabbing her pussy. Run your fingers around her pussy first.
Tease the fuck out of her! (And that’s an order.)
A Note On Clits
If you decide to manually stimulate your lover (with your fingers on her clit), be gentle.
Every woman likes it differently, but we all share one thing in common…
Our clits get raw and sore when they are rubbed too hard over and over.
And for Goddess Sake, please cut your nails!
Clits need a break once in awhile.
Just because a woman CAN have multiple orgasms, doesn’t mean you should be relentless.
Many women don’t even like their clits directly touched because they are too sensitive. You need to find out how your lover likes it.
How to tell if she likes what you’re doing? She is pushing her hips towards you for more.
She doesn’t like it if she’s pulling away or stops moving altogether.
In that case, switch it up. Get her “entrance” wet with your tongue or some lube. TEASE it!
Probably best to start with stimulating around the clitoris before touching it directly. I’m posting a video below that offers a great (and explicit) demonstration of how to touch and lick a clit.
But basically, know this: Finger or tongue…Be gentle and give the clit breaks.
I first saw this video a few years ago and thought it was amazing.
Every time I watch it, I get so turned on!
It’s basically a live, explicit, pussy-displayed, orgasm-producing how-to video taught by a woman.
Make sure you watch it right till the end. This is priceless information, gentlemen!
A myth that I’ve noticed a lot of men seem to believe is that we (women) want you to go down on us forever and ever.
Not true! If you keep your face down there for too long, our minds start to wander! That’s the last thing you want.
You need to mix it up. Pull your face away and finger fuck for awhile. (Always very gently at first and make sure your fingers are wet with saliva or lube.)
Remember always that just because it looks good in the video doesn’t mean your lover will enjoy it. Including the videos I'm posting here.
Something that I like, personally, is having my g-spot stimulated by my man.
The g-spot is basically right behind the clit. You want to hook your fingers slightly towards the front of her body and rub gently.
(I get wet just thinking about it.)
Here’s a great video about the woman’s g-spot…
A sad experience for many women is that just as we get close to coming, our partners come first.
The reason this is so common is because of energy. We feel each other’s energy. When you’re close to coming, it makes me get close to coming, and vice versa.
We feel each other’s orgasm energy and IT TURNS US ON!
Guys, learn how to build up to your orgasm then stop before you come. Doing this over and over will allow you to prolong exciting sex and will also enhance your orgasm!
Most women don’t have orgasms until they’ve had at least 20 minutes of good sex. Some find it easier to come when they are on top. Others find it easier when you’re on top.
Ask your lover what is the best way for her to come. When she’s close to orgasm, tell her again how fucking sexy she is.
Learn more here, if you're interested, about tantric sex. This article gets really good the further down you scroll. You're welcome. xo
Problem with erections or achieving orgasm?
Some of you may know I am a natural health freak.
It’s normal for men and women to experience ups and downs in their sex drive, especially due to aging, medications, life stresses etc.
My hormone issues were corrected when I started taking a natural hormone supplement for women my age.
I also know men who have successfully corrected their erection and ejaculation issues with natural hormone supplements like T Rescue, for instance.
It’s worth a try and it’s better than taking the chemical pharmaceuticals prescribed by doctors.
You can find these and similar supplements online and in health food stores, like my favourite store “Surrey Natural Foods.”
In my sessions, I am your Massage Goddess, and I serve you at the end. But with your lover, be a gentleman and clean up the mess.
Bring your lady a towel. Offer her a glass of water. Make her feel like you worship her. That's all she really wants, after all.
How this applies to Sessions with ME!
I am a very sexual woman. I was blessed with a high sex drive and an ability to orgasm quite easily.
But I need my clients to take some things into consideration when touching me during our sessions:
- There is no requirement to touch me, but for clients I trust who want to touch, I do allow it with certain limitations. However, if you want to relax and enjoy your massage and be pampered, by all means...do that! I am here to serve YOU. ;) But if you do want to touch me...
- I like being teased more than anything – run your fingers along the crease between my leg and labia; massage the outer labia; stimulate my nipples; massage my butt cheeks; tease me with gentle strokes; don’t focus on my clit; use my massage oil on me to reduce friction.
- Be gentle, especially with my clit.
- Give my clit breaks. A raw painful clit will make me suffer for days!
- Also please cut your nails. The skin around the vagina is thin and tears easily. :’(
- And please never be embarrassed or offended if I ask you to stop doing something or to be more gentle. No judgment here! Just a desire to have a mutually enjoyable experience together. xoxo
That concludes my very first “Ask Annie” column!
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And remember to support your local sex worker! (Especially me) *teehee*
Love Annie XO