Friday, May 31, 2019

Ask Annie: How True Are Some Common Myths About Sex Workers?

Hello Fellas!

I usually try to post super sexy articles and stories but I was having writer's block this week.

So I decided to dispel some common myths about sex industry workers.

If you can think of any other stereotypes about sex workers that you'd like me to address, please share in the comments below. 

Love Annie
XOXO

Drug Addiction

Probably the most common myth about sex industry workers is that we are all addicted to drugs. And certainly, some of us are!

But you will find drug addicts in any industry. 

You may be shocked to learn that indoor female sex workers are MORE LIKELY to have post secondary education than women in the the general population!

Most of us are self-employed, self-driven, masters of our own destinies. 

The idea that we are all addicted to drugs is a very false idea and does not represent us at all.

Promiscuity

You may be surprised to know that the least promiscuous times of my life were while working in the sex industry. 

I think it is because I am constantly given attention in this business, so I don't feel the need to go attention seeking from random men. 

Also, being a sex worker, I value sex and sexuality, which leads me to seek truly deep sexual experiences, which are not easy to find with multiple partners.

30 Clients Per Day

I've seen and heard this statistic bandied around in the media and spouted from the mouths of SWERF's, that sex workers are servicing up to 200 men per day!

This is an absolutely ridiculous number made up by people who are trying to abolish the sex industry. 

First of all, it's IMPOSSIBLE. And secondly, we WISH we were that busy!

More commonly, SWERF's say we average 30 clients per day!

Personally, I max my appointments out each day at THREE and usually only do ONE or TWO. 

I schedule around my family and I have a life of my own too. This work allows me to have a full and interesting life.

I certainly don't spend all day every day churning out hundreds of massages.

Pimped

I only use the word pimp when referring to a person who is controlling and exploiting a sex worker. 

Most of us are NOT pimped. 

Some of us work for agencies or managers, but they are not pimps. 

They are not exploiting us (at least not anymore than you -square job people- are being exploited by your employers).

MOST of us are working independently FOR OURSELVES! 

So, unless we are exploiting ourselves, we are obviously not being pimped.

If you ever have an experience with a sex worker whom you think is being pimped, please share this information with me privately and I will pass the info onto people who may be able to help them.


Low Self-Esteem

I know some sex workers who feel that the industry has had a detrimental effect on their self-esteem. 

But I know WAY MORE sex workers who feel sex work  has improved their self-esteem and increased their self-worth.

I fit into the latter category. 

Before I became a stripper all those years ago, I was insecure about my small breasts. Doing sex industry work changed that for me. 

My small breasts are appreciated and valued in this industry. The fact is, boob size isn't that important to most men and some prefer them small.

That's just one example of how my self-esteem improved in this industry. 

Another way is that people who used to intimidate me don't intimidate me anymore. 

I don't take any shit anymore. I stand up for myself more. I don't feel threatened by other women.

I could go on and on.

Trafficked

This is the strategy and tactic being used by prohibitionists to control and criminalize sex workers. They say we are all trafficked.

That is complete and total bullshit. 

It honestly makes me angry when I see sex workers being put in the same category as victims of human trafficking.

The made-up statistics and sensationalized stories about sex trafficking make it even worse. 

And it is this narrative that has opened the door for laws to be made against our clients.

Sex workers provide adult consensual services. 

Many of us enjoy our work  immensely (I'm one of them). 

We oppose laws that harm us and our clients.

We oppose human trafficking!

There are already laws to protect people from trafficking. 

Sex work laws are not really about protecting people from trafficking. 

They are based on the belief that sex for intimacy and/or pleasure is dirty and evil. 

What the hell is wrong with people?! 

Sex is not evil. 

It is sacred and beautiful and everyone should have access to it!


Our Clients Are Bad People

I'm sure you recognize the absurdity of this myth.

My clients are upstanding citizens who treat me with respect, kindness, and friendship. 

They do not deserve the ridiculous stigma they are forced to endure. 

My clients come from almost every walk of life and they are good men. 

They are doctors, lawyers, teachers, construction workers, salesmen, realtors, veterans, and more.

They are decent, hardworking, beautiful men who are seeking a soft and kind human touch. And I'm here to give it to them.


So there you have it!

I hope this helps dispel some of the stereotypes you may have heard about sex workers in the past.

Please share this knowledge with  your friends. 

And next time you need soft, kind, human touch...you know where to find me! XOXO





2 comments:

  1. There is a significant difference between consensual sex work (erotic massage, escorting, stripping) and sexual trafficking. The later is akin to modern day slavery, while the former is no different from employment as a lawyer, a social worker, or any other consensual employment. To consider sex work immoral and illegal is similar to calling a pharmacist a criminal because a drug trafficker, on the street corner, sells Opioids. Both sell drugs, but it is the context that is different. The actions of the criminal operator should not taint the services provided by the honest professional.

    The anti-prostitution evangelists willingly distorting reality by presenting all sex workers as being trafficked, coerced, or abused. This is a fiction. It is no different than painting all lawyers or used car sales people as shysters. That is fake news, but it makes great copy. Yet those myths have resulted in Bill C-36. Its draconian measures do little to protect those engaged in the sex industry, communities, children, or those being trafficked.

    Thanks Annie for your well written article. You made your points very well.

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