Sunday, July 19, 2020

Once a Stripper, Always a Sexy Bitch

Omg! I have no tattoos in this photo! (1998)
I've been an adult entertainer for over two decades. 

I started stripping when I was 23. I stripped and did some nude modeling between babies.

I was even a stripping waitress at the Tudor Inn for over a year!

I also had square jobs, got a post secondary education, and I was even married for awhile.

A few years ago, I returned to the strip club to be a massage girl.

"Massage Girl" didn't really suit me. 

Instead, I went by the more appropriate title of "Massage Goddess."

Now, as you know, I practice the art of sensual massage in a private setting.

1998

Clients sometimes ask me about my stripping days. Did I like it better than what I'm doing now?

That is a complex question because there were parts of dancing that I absolutely loved and nothing before or since can compare; but there are also parts that I absolutely hated.

In this article, I am going to share some differences between working in the strip clubs versus doing sensual massage now.

In The Beginning

I was young and full of defiance when I started dancing.

I had my own style and I wasn't going to change it for agents or club owners or anyone.

I didn't get a boob job or go blonde. I didn't try to straighten or tame my wild wavy hair. 

I was much the same then as I am now, personality-wise...

Always smiling. Always giving out hugs. Always on time and professional.

I went home after work and didn't party. I smoked weed but no heavy drugs.

I LOVED STRIPPING.

I loved buying costumes and putting together playlists for my sets. 

I loved having a reason to put makeup on, tan, and paint my toenails.

I loved that I could take weeks off at a time to go camping or visit family.

But most of all, more than anything, I LOVED PERFORMING!

I loved dancing sexy, making eye contact with my audience, smiling, laughing, teasing, and moving my body to music.

I don't believe there is a more wonderful way to make a living than to dance for it.

At the core, stripping was "Honest to God" the best job I ever had. It was literally my dream job.

I loved being an exotic dancer.


2012

 
Activist Spirit

Around 2000, I conceived of an idea to start the Naked Truth - a website for exotic dancers.

Long story short, that led to me joining "the sex worker movement." 

Through a "by and for" sex worker organization in Vancouver BC, I became involved with a group of sex workers who spanned the industry in gender and specialty.

I made friends with escorts, dommes, sex workers of different genders and sexual orientations, street-based sex workers, webcam workers, adult film actors and producers...and more.

My wedding guests were a who's who of whore activism in Vancouver circa 2008.

The first incarnation of TNT

Through my activism and advocacy connections, I was hired to coordinate a health and safety project for sex industry workers.

I compiled advice from sex workers across Canada and strived to connect with diverse individuals from different parts of the industry.

I learned so much.

I didn't know at the time that one day I would use all of that knowledge to run my own sensual massage business.

Let me tell you, it has served me well.

2012

Transferable Skills

Stripping required me to become a business woman. I had to learn about saving receipts and paying self-employment taxes.

I had to motivate myself to get work and then go to work. I could not be lazy. I could not be disorganized.

To maximize my earning potential, I had to be good at conversation and learn to read body language.

I had to set and assert boundaries. I learned not to judge a book by its cover when assessing my audience.


A relic from the past.

I grew up in the strip clubs. 

My strength, my determination, my direction... were all nurtured by my experience being an adult entertainer surrounded by incredible colleagues.

I was always headstrong, but this business gave me the life I wanted. My stubbornness gave me a voice.

I molded and learned along the way. A lot of my youthful opinions don't hold sway over me anymore.

I am not a cheeky stripper anymore.

But I grew up in the sex industry.

Transferable skills include back arching, stripteasing, and general naughtiness.

Stripping was the best job I ever had. 

I got paid to move my body to music. I got paid to be sensual and sexy.

What could be better?

But there were shitty parts of stripping too.



The Dark Side of the Strobe Light

I loved stripping but there was "un-glamorous" shit that I put up with.

For instance, working in clubs with no heat or hot water.

Agents bumping me out of gigs at the last minute because I didn't bend over backwards for them. Hello, I was a single mom.

I was usually given my contract at the end of the week, so I wouldn't know until Saturday if my shows took a paycut without me being informed.

(The stripper work week is Monday to Saturday.)

A few dollars per show made a difference in hundreds of dollars back then. We were getting 30+ shows per week.

Some things haven't changed since being a stripper...

  • I still tan regularly and shave everyday.
  • I still save my receipts and hire an accountant to do my taxes.
  • I still make my own playlists and choose my own "uniform."
  • I still lie about my job to people I don't want to get into it with. (Howdy nieghbour, I enjoy cocks for a living. What do you do?)
  • People in the square world still misunderstand me and the men I provide services for are still some of my closest friends.
  • I still get to watch myself work in mirrors.
  • I'm still providing comfortably for my family and I'm still content with my beautiful life.
  • I am still horny as fuck.
  • I am still cheeky.


What I Love Now

What I love now, doing sensual massage, is that I don't have to deal with agents or club owners.

I don't have to put up with their shit and I also do not have to get their permission for anything to do with my business.

I love what I do now because I have full and total control over what I am doing.

I manage every aspect of my business from where I do it to how often to who for and beyond.

Unlike my early stripper days, I no longer feel a need to assert my individuality. 

I am comfortable with who I am. I don't need to prove it.

I am calmer, more grateful, and happier. I have evolved since my stripping days.

Stripping was a job that I loved but it was just a job. I didn't buy huge theme costumes. I didn't travel the world.

I worked and I played.

Now, every decision I make for my business is a mixture of branding and strategies to maximize my income.

I didn't think like that when I was young. I wish I had.

In fact, I wish I started doing sensual massage 20 years ago.

This career fits me like two fingers in a pussy. Perfectly.

I'm a sensual woman. So, why not earn my income doing what comes natural to me?

My marketing background is probably the best transferable skill I brought with me and I learned that shit on the ground.

I am old enough to remember the days before social media.  

No universities taught "digital marketing" when I was a young, single woman with one child.

I learned it because of stripping and starting the Naked Truth.

I rolled with the punches. 

I am - like most of you - a person who remembers the world before cell phones and wifi and Facebook.

Interestingly, I have adapted and you receive an email once a week because of my study of digital marketing.



"Once a Stripper, Always a Sexy Bitch."

 
I don't know if this is true. I made it up.

However, being a stripper definitely enhanced my sexuality in numerous ways.

It is the same now with sensual massage.

I am comfortable being naked with you.

The rules of engagement are set out for us to enjoy a respectful bit of play.

I'm all tease and you're all sugar and spice, heightening my senses while I overcome yours.

I love having a high libido. 

I love massaging different sexy men and not feeling guilty about it.

I love flirting and talking about topics that aren't allowed in polite society.

We are ever polite, don't get me wrong. But no subject is taboo.

This is a great reason to love my life.

It's not all cocks and giggles but the majority of the time it really is. 

Thank you for being a part of it. I hope to see you soon. xoxo

Love Annie

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