The responses to this survey were very eye-opening!
I was alternately surprised, aroused, flattered, and enlightened.
Thank you, sincerely, to all who participated in this survey.
And now for the results...
How old were you the first time you saw a sex worker?
Out of 52 respondents, 8 of you had your first experience with a sex worker when you were 20 years old or younger!
I was very surprised about that!
The majority (eighteen) of you were between 21 and 30 years old.
That means that fully half of you saw your first sex worker by the age of 30!
The next biggest group was another eighteen of you between the ages of 31 and 50.
That leaves 8 of you who waited till you were in your 50's and 60's to experience seeing a provider.
How was that experience?
I found it fascinating that 67% of you said your first experience was "pretty good" or better!
Those who chose "other" were saying that their experience was "okay" or "so so." I obviously missed a category!
Can you describe to me why you picked the above answer?
Some of you who had a less than ideal first experiences listed these reason why...
- service transaction
- no connection
- different than pics
- intimacy was lacking
- "I was nervous."
Here are some of your other responses...
"I was not sure what to expect, it was a tantric massage, it was a combination of excitement, mystery of a tantric massage, second thoughts (social stigma am I a bad person) and that all quickly disappeared. It was a beautiful experience for what I thought was both of us because I learned how to massage and please her. But I think pleasing someone is what makes the experience worth having."
"It was quite a thrill, but that was significantly offset by the guilt associated with cheating and the nervousness of getting caught."
Aww, I'm sorry you felt that way!
"Just wasn't what I was expecting, couldn't relax."
This is one reason why I post what to expect on my website... so new clients aren't disappointed!
"Enjoyable experience with a lady who enjoyed pleasing and liked to be pleased. She was my regular for a number of years and then she moved when her children graduated high school."
Ah, yes. Life goes on! I hope not to retire until I'm well into my sixties at least! LOL
"It was a simple massage with hj. The massage was kinda meh and the hj average. She was also reluctant to go top or bottomless. I was mostly there to dip my toe into that world though and so it was mission accomplished. I later graduated to better providers, FS providers, and I also entered into the contract better educated and prepared later on. Gotta start somewhere."
Yes, you do have to start somewhere and learn along the way. xoxo
"I didn't really know what I wanted in a sex worker. Where I worked, I drove by them every week. I worked weekends. When I moved, I went to the local strip club and the SW were across the street. Very beautiful. Very sexy. I had enough of looking so I let one seduce me. Random. I became more selective after that."
Ooh, sounds like an exciting first experience!
"When I was done I just wanted to tell everyone how great it was."
Aw, I hope this is how I make my clients feel!
"I didn't really know what to expect but I enjoyed it. Nice having someone else hold my cock. lol"
The feeling of someone else's hands is so arousing! I agree!
What did you learn from that experience?
I really loved reading the responses to this question so I decided to share quite a few with you...
"Sex trade is a business that doesn’t guarantee pleasure."
This is very true. However, I do believe there is a provider out there for everyone. Clients who love my services are looking for what I offer. Clients who want more than I offer are looking for a different kind of provider.
If you have a fetish or you want to be dominated, go to the fetish section of the advertisements.
If you want full service, there is a section for that too. ;)
"We need intimacy."
Amen to that. xoxo
"Life is too short to be vanilla."
I love this response because I wholeheartedly agree. We have one life to live and only this moment in time to live it.
"Find somebody you can get to know and have a decent customer relationship. One night stands no good."
I feel the same way. Regular clients are my favourite, especially if we have a connection right away. Certain clients I really miss when I haven't seen them for awhile.
Our sessions have become more and more exciting over time as we trust and care about each other more.
"Be more specific of expectations up front and ask questions if necessary."
Another great lesson learned! I feel bad when a new client hasn't read my website and arrives expecting things I do not offer.
But I still expect new clients to respect my boundaries even if they haven't done their homework.
"Try new things."
This is like life being short.
But it's also about being kinky!
"Not to be afraid."
I've heard somewhere that the opposite of fear is love.
I believe that intimacy is the act of being loving to another person.
I have so much love to give!
"That I would try it again and that I didn't feel guilty about the experience."
Good for you! Guilt and shame are very destructive emotions.
"That I can ever be without sex!"
I love sex too but what I love the most are the naked hugs, the teasing and touching that come before the climaxes, and the pleasure of being lost in the moment with another human being.
"I learned about the proper oral technique on a woman, better pleasure methods, how to be more open as well."
What a wonderful woman!
"It was a beautiful calm but intense experience, but what I really learned for myself was realization of mutual respectful pleasing and that she became a friend I cared for and respected outside of the beautiful experience."
This response fills me up with happiness. I feel ths way about my regulars.
"That if I was going to continue I had to figure out a way to be more calm."
I hope you found the calmness you were seeking!
"How good a massage is from a professional."
I try to give a great massage but also include intimacy and sensuality as well. I want my clients walking out of our sessions feeling like a million bucks.
"That this is a nice venture and that the ladies I see are angels -- people with nice souls."
Aww, that is so sweet. Sex workers are people too. And many of us are more compassionate than your average person. xoxo
"To always go in freshly showered, do your homework as to what they provide if there are restrictions."
"It was a way to relieve years of pent up frustration."
We need human touch and connection for our mental well being. *hugs*
"That I really enjoy closeness with beautiful women."
It's one of the perks, for sure! Beauty is everywhere in this industry.
"I love being touched and not judged."
Yes. We all do. That is perfectly worded.
"How beautiful sex could be."
That's truly a gift. Amazing.
"That I am very sexual and tactile. Also learned that there is no shame in paying for what you need sexually/physically/emotionally."
You are so right. That's why we have professionals.
"That it wasn't dirty or perverted. It was fun, clean, sensual and left me feeling great. I was respectful. She was kind and sexy and very talented."
This is how it should be.
"What fun a cock in the "Right Hands" could be when hard and with an open minded woman!"
Naughty fun is the best!
"That I needed a little more than just a hand job (and I don't mean fs)."
I believe you are talking about the connection and intimacy that we, as humans, need in order to feel secure and happy in our lives.
"I can't just pick a worker at random. I've been to brothels, massage parlours, and online escorts/erotic massage. Massages are more intimate than full service. Beauty is great but the personality has to match too. Skill differs from one to another. The first two qualities are easy to find. All are beautiful, all are charming, and many have a personality that matches my ideal. The last, skill is very difficult to find. You are the best that I have ever been with. There are only two others that came close. When I have one, stick with her."
Thank you for your kind words! XOXO
Approximately how long did you wait before you saw a sex worker again (same provider or different)?
One person waited only one day! It must have been amazing the first time!
Three of you waited a week; and three of you waited two weeks.
Twenty of you waited 1-3 months.
Six of you between 4 and 6 months.
Five waited a year-ish, while four of you waited two years or longer.
And TWO of you waited over FIFTEEN YEARS!
I don't know why this fascinates me, but it does.
Clearly the majority of you found it worthwhile enough to give it another shot within 3 months of your first experience. WOOT!
Did you find the right provider for you (then or eventually)?
FOR MY REGULARS: If you could offer me one piece of financial advice, what would it be?
Some of you offered me business advice which is different than financial advice, but I realize the question could be misinterpreted.
"Offer full service to people you know."
"Work to give me the best experience ever and I will return."
"Offer some kind (within your boundaries) bonus service."
I definitely try to offer the best experience I can within my boundaries.
But I haven't really figured out a bonus service that I am willing to offer beyond what I am already doing.
And here is a taste of the financial advice many of you offered.
Thank you so much!
"Pay yourself first. Nothing lasts forever."
"Realestate, I would recommend you buying your own, besides income from customers, the property will appreciate faster than any stock and at some point you no longer provide service you could rent out unit for second income to pay mortgage."
"Make sure you file taxes and claim all deductions available to you. Try to maximize your RRSP deduction and /or your TFSA allotment. Be careful when investing in bank mutual funds. Their costs are higher than those funds available through an investment broker. Lastly, investing with a local broker, one with a best company in BC/Canada (eg. Odlum Brown) will almost always outperform a bank investment advisor. If you are trying to invest only online look to the long term not day to day. You will never beat the computer driven investors. Good luck!"
"Make a budget. Trim it down as much as you can. Don't buy anything unless it is absolutely necessary. Save the money. Buy a house. The 20 years of sacrifice scrimping will be worth it."
"Keep that debt to a minimum, and no matter what - save for retirement NOW. It might seem like a long way off but it comes faster than you think."
"Learn the basics of the stock market, even if you choose to have a financial advisor represent you, don’t be blind to what they are doing with your money. Financial advisors are not all cut from the same cloth and may not have your best interests at heart."
"Make a rule to put 10-20% of every date away in a tax free savings account or some other safe savings account for your future."
FOR MY REGULARS: What is your favourite part of enjoying a massage with me? Please rank in order of most enjoyment being the first and least enjoyment being the last.
- Your sensuality.
- Your personality.
- The wonderful greeting at the door.
- You give a great massage.
- Your enjoyment of and interaction during massage. ;)
- Just being open, honest and trusting.
- Sexy, genuine and happy. Nice, clean and intimate room.
- Those rankings are actually so close that the numbers don't tell the story. Love it all!
- Hard to rank. All are 10/10.
- The feeling of your BEEP BEEP BEEP BEEP! (X-rated compliments... thank you!)
- Giving you a massage, pleasing you... Intimacy comes from enjoying each other, not just me enjoying you.
- I enjoy being able to open up to you about my sex life. I guess that's part of "chatting."
- I kind of walked around in a blissful state all day :-) I guess in my work world I am the dominant one dictating what gets done when, this was a total role reversal and I loved it.
- The feeling of being with a friend, you listen and you share.
- I just loved the whole experience with you Annie.
Thank you all for your wonderful feedback!
I feel the same way about you!
FOR MY REGULARS: Do you touch yourself and think about me between our bookings? (I'm only asking this because it turns me on to imagine LOL!)
"Every once in a while. I then usually visit your web site."
"Never seen you yet but do fantasize about you."
"Not a regular but have touched myself often thinking about a session with you."
"Every Monday when I receive your weekly email update. Okay sometimes when it read your twitter posts. Any time I come across something that makes me think of you and our time spent together. Until the next time..."
"I've only seen you once but I picture you all the time now."
And my favourite comment of all...
"Doing that right now. Hard to type with one hand."
I laughed out loud. Thank you. xoxo
That concludes the survey results.
If you are interested in a duo massage with me and Carmen, we have a spot available on Friday August 28 at 2pm.
First come, first serve!
I hope you all have a great week!
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