Men are stereotyped in many ways.
Perhaps the most pervasive stereotypes revolve around men's sexuality
This week I am deconstructing some of those stereotypes to showcase my expertise on the male species. ;)
Working in the sex industry for the past 23 years has taught me a lot about men!
Particularly, I've learned WHAT MEN ARE NOT.
I hope you enjoy my perspective. xo
Common Sexual Stereotypes About Men...
1. Men with big hands have big dicks
Men with big hands do NOT necessarily have big dicks.
This stereotype is false.
Some men with big hands have big dicks.
But also, some men with small hands have big dicks.
And vice versa.
Men, you probably already know this and I am preaching to the choir.
2. Men prefer women with BIG BOOBS
While I believe there are definitely some men who prefer large breasts...
There are equally men who prefer small breasts.
And the majority prefer ALL breasts.
In this case, ALL BREASTS MATTER, Gentlemen.
(I hope you're not offended by my little joke.)
3. Men don't care about their partner's pleasure
This is laughable in many ways. Sure, there are men who will fuck their partners even if they know she's not into it.
In fact, I believe our culture has kind of encouraged us to believe that women have lower sex drives, therefore they may not want sex...
However, men still want sex...
So, that means they should expect sex from their wives.
To a degree, I concur with this thinking.
For instance, I believe that no one should have to resign themselves to a life without sexual intimacy.
However, having sex with a woman when she has made it clear she's not interested works against you.
First, she will look even less forward to any future sexual experiences because this one was not enjoyable.
And second, she will feel that you do not care about her pleasure.
I believe sincerely that most men DO CARE about giving pleasure to their female partners.
The majority of my clients care about whether or not I'm enjoying our time together.
It is their caring that makes our time together special.
I have to say, from my experience, this stereotype is false.
4. Men want to fuck everything that moves
Certainly men with high sex drives may be interested in a variety of partners.
But women with high sex drives are the same!
It doesn't mean that we want to fuck everything that moves.
It doesn't even mean that we are going to be promiscuous.
(Although, some of us do go through promiscuous phases.)
It simply means we have horny imaginations.
I'm speaking as a person with a high sex drive.
I fantasize about a lot of men.
Men in movies, men in public, clients, porn actors...
I may have fantasized about you.
But that does not mean I fuck you...
...or them. Or whomever.
Being horny is not solely a quality of men.
5. Men don't like to cuddle after they come
Some men do not like to cuddle after they come.
There are comedy acts... and pop culture news articles... and feminist essays... and even historical reviews that claim men are wired to fuck and run.
Apparently, cavemen of the past, by primal instinct to ensure survival of our species, were compelled to spread their seed.
And therefore, men today become uninterested in any kind of emotional or physical afterplay following their happy ending.
I CALL BULLSHIT!
The majority of my clients like to cuddle after their happy ending.
Many are even still horny!
I believe that if a man (or woman) wants to leave directly after the sexual experience is over, it is simply because the interest is not there.
Not everyone connects the same.
It may also be because they are in a hurry.
Men are not, in my opinion, hardwired to fuck and run.
6. Older men don't need sex anymore
This is not only a stereotype about men but a stereotype about women as well:
The idea that as we age, we lose our sexuality.
I'm reading a novel right now and a character in the book assumes that another character in his 70's could not possibly be having sex.
What an absurd assumption!
My clients in their 70's would strongly disagree.
What I mean by that, is age ain't nothing but a number.
I do not see a difference in the sex drives of my older clients versus my younger clients.
They may be getting older, but they're still horny as fuck!
(With all their horny years of experience to guide them.)
The wonderful thing about sexuality is that you don't need to have sex to enjoy it.
Sensual massage, for instance, is an amazing and intimate way to get those sexual needs met.
(Forgive me for my blatant self-promotion.)
I'm writing this article from Kelowna where I am spending the weekend by the beach.
I hope you are happy and horny (no matter how old you are).
Text or Email today!