Saturday, February 27, 2021

Vaginas, Sex, and Respect With a Mature Massage Goddess

As an older woman provider, I make assumptions about my clients who come to see me.

I wonder about things like...

Do you see older women providers because you are an older man and you feel more comfortable with a woman closer to your age?

Are you a young man who is attracted to older women?

Have you seen both younger and older providers and noticed any differences?

I would love to hear your experiences by email or text.

As a society, we don't know a lot about women and their sexuality. We are especially devoid of much knowledge surrounding older women's sexuality.

As a young woman, I got the message that beauty is whatever the media of the day says it is. 

I was a rebellious youngster and liked to reject the system. I dressed like a tomboy for years and finally settled on "casual" as my main fashion style.

I was never girly. I am still not good at doing make up, even after all these years stripping and being a sex worker! I don't like to spend time on my hair. I hate shopping.

I am the opposite of what society expects me to be.  They require prettiness with not too much slutty-ness; intelligence but shut the fuck up; and especially, FALL IN LINE!

(Omgoddess, I'm a smart, slutty, mouthy, rebel and maybe a little pretty too. Not your average woman!)

I was a bit promiscuous as a teenager and in my early 20's, in all honesty. I didn't go around bragging about my conquests. And 98% of my lovers never smeared my name either.

I never had a reputation for being a slut although I knew I probably could have, if the young men I played with hadn't been respectful.

I couldn't help it. I was horny. And the young men I slept with seemed to recognize I wasn't doing it for love. It was they who usually wanted more.

Growing up, I heard that women go through their sexual prime in their 30's. Then I heard it was their 40's. 

I was always alarmed to hear these things because I had always been a very sensual, horny woman. I feared it would be too much in my 30's and 40's.

Alas, here I am in my 40's and my sex drive has stayed mostly the same throughout the years; falling with childbirths and health challenges, rising with everything known under the sun that turns me on. LOL

Yet, falling or rising, I always masturbated with my "lawnmower" vibrator. My sex drive was still there. I was just a little tired, is all.

Now, the big question is: Will I lose my sex drive in menopause?

I can't even count how many people have told me about experiencing this in their relationships.

All these years, I have tried to imagine what it would be like to lose my libido... It is unimaginable.

It has always been there and I find it hard to believe I will lose it.

I am grateful to know many women who are going through or have made it through menopause and they are still horny! (My mom is included in this list, so I'm hoping genetics plays a role.)

In recent months, it has become clear to me that I am starting that wonderful process of life.

The signs are there: changes in my cycle and feeling rather too warm some of the time.

So far, I'm still horny as fuck!

But, it seems, I must be more careful with my delicate parts, as I get older.

According to doctors, the walls of my vagina are becoming more fragile and prone to tearing now that I've reached this time in my life.

For this reason, I do not allow deep finger penetration in my vagina. When we play, it is gently and with care.

If you want to have an aggressive play session, I am not the woman for you.

I must make sure I take care of the body I share with you. It is my living to stay healthy down there and up here (in my head).

As I learn more about how my body is changing as an older woman, I will teach you ways to please me and other mature lovers in your life.

I am a woman (Hear me purr)

Last week, I wrote about how much I love client friends - those of you who have been a part of my life for awhile and we "love" each other.

This week, I feel the need to address new clients who are thinking about coming to see me.

Sex workers are human beings first. Sex work is what we do for a living and like any other person, some of us love our jobs and some are ready to find something new.

Personally, I am still in the "love my job" category. I love intimacy. I love teasing. I love naked hugs. I love my clients. I love my job.

However, not all clients are wonderful. Some don't seem to see me as a human. Some see me as a tool to get their needs met, with little concern for how it might make me feel to be treated like some factory-made whore. 

I am a human being; a woman, first. Sex work is not who I am. You are not paying me to do whatever you want. You don't own me for the time you've paid for.

You are paying me for the service I offer and if it's not what you're looking for, then find another provider who provides that service. 

I'm not trying to criticize providers who are fine with these types of clients. Some providers like the guys who come in, get off as fast as they can, and leave. Paid for an hour and done in 15 minutes! 

We all do our work the way we like to do it. I truly believe there is a client market for every provider. There is an endless supply of the kind of men we each individually serve best.

The clients I serve best are respectful, gentle, caring, and they want a sensual massage. They stay for the full hour, chatting after they've climaxed.

I like to be treated with gentleness and care. I like to be given respect by my clients. Our mutual, respectful connection makes things hotter in the massage session.

The way I run my business is not to get as many clients as I can, but to get the best clients possible and keep them coming back. 

I have found my relationships with these kinds of wonderful clients are rewarding and they bring positive energy to my life.

We have so much more fun if we create a respectful interaction from the start.

Ways to respect me:

  • Send me a face photo when you are reaching out to book with me. It helps me feel like I can trust you more.
  • Read my boundaries and rates on my website. I answer a lot of questions there. Then, when you come to see me, please do not try to push my boundaries. Just enjoy my amazing massage and naked hugs and let me work my magic! 
  • Don't stand outside of my building early, waiting for me to let you in. Stay in your car or contact me before you arrive to let me know you're almost here. I will tell you when I am ready, and you can approach the door at that time.
  • PLEASE BE QUIET IN MY BUILDING. If you are a loud talker, I may not be the right provider for you. It is my workspace and I would appreciate for you to not heat me out.
  • Wash your hands very well before you touch my body. The delicate balance of flora in and around my pussy requires this.
  • Wash your ass. I can't tell you how hard it is to get horny from a guy with a smelly ass. Please, please, please wash your asshole. I have a shower available for your use. Your Massage Goddess thanks you.
  • Wash your cock. Get all the smegma out of your foreskin before our session. Wash your balls and perineum area. Make it smell pretty, please.
  • Do not try to take control of the massage session. This is my domain. Please do not try to flip me onto my back or push me around in any direction. Tell me what you want, and I will let you know if your request is approved.
  • If you have a difficult time coming... I will not judge! Please do not ever worry about it. It's very common. Sometimes being TOO HORNY can make it hard to come. Ironic, I know. It's perfectly natural to have some difficulty. But, if you don't think you are going to come or would like to take over the happy ending, please feel free. We can get creative with dirty talk or I can touch myself for you, etc. Don't feel weird about touching yourself in front of me. I watch porn A LOT! Men masturbating is my favourite search.

If the above requests do not fit your idea of a fucking amazing massage session, then please don't book with me.

If they seem reasonable and fit what you're looking for... LET'S DO IT! ;)


Would you ever be interested in paying to hang out for lunch with a lovely, charming Massage Goddess? 

I've had this request and I'm thinking about it. I miss having opportunities to socialize. Perhaps, this is a way we can meet each other's mutual needs for conversation and connection?

We could start with a massage in the morning, then meet for lunch somewhere. Or, if you are worried about Covid and would like to have lunch with me but no naughty fun... that's fine too!

I don't know what I would charge for something like that. But if there is interest, I will look into it more thoughtfully.


Love Annie xoxo

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Saturday, February 20, 2021

An Ode to Client Friends

I am a busy person; maybe you can relate.

I have children, work, housework, grocery shopping, meal preparing, homework to help with, and the most important thing: quality time with my children and partner.

I admit, my days are full.

I don't have much time for friends. In fact, I rarely see anyone outside of my family or work. Which is why I am so grateful for my regulars.

You are my friends.

Some people probably don't think men and women can be friends.

I disagree.

Friendship is not determined by presence or absence of sexual engagement. My partner is my best friend and we do it a lot! 

Some of my clients tell me their wives are their best friends, but they hardly ever do it!

Just because YOU AND I have a naked hug and a happy ending together, doesn't mean we don't connect on an emotional level too.

In fact, I bounce ideas off of my regulars and share my woes with you. I appreciate your friendship so much. You are really, truly there for me when I need a friend.

I hope you feel the same about me. xo

In honour of clients I consider friends, I wrote this silly, fun ode:



You could have been a stinky jerk.

Instead, you made me want to twerk.

Your touch, your naked skin on mine,

Aroused me, as we intertwined.

We talked, we laughed, we played, we danced.

You came. You left. But you came back.

Your texts: I'm giggling at my phone.

I think of you when I'm alone.

You know who you are. I've told you before.

You're cool as fuck being friends with a whore. ;)

You make my day, my week, my month.

You gently worship at my cunt.

So, cheers to client friends! You're dear.

I love to watch us in the mirror.

Your cock so hard. My hands so tiny.

The oil makes our bodies shiny.

Our chats are what I love the most.

Oh that, and when you suck my toes.

Okay, I love the teasing too.

And orgasms are great with you.

I love that you are in my life.

It's innocent... (don't leave your wife.) 

Our friendship is unique, for sure!

It's healthy... it's a fucking cure!

A cure for touch starvation, right?

A cure for living a mundane life.

You are my cure, as well, my friend.

You put this roof over my head.

You're helping me pay off my debt!

Your naked hugs are just the best.

So, cheers to client friends... Hurray!

You cheer me up, make me come, and you pay!

And though we may not often play,

You are my dear friend every day.

Love Annie

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Sunday, February 14, 2021

Sexy Valentine's Day Photos for You!

I can't even tell you how excited I am.

Until Covid hit, I was getting new professional photos from Jonny Ray every 4-6 weeks!

It has been a whole year since I had a professional photo shoot done.

And now, I finally have pro photos for you.

Happy Belated Valentine's Day!

I hope you enjoy them.

Love Annie xoxo

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Sunday, February 7, 2021

"Help Me Serve You Better" Survey Results

A few weeks ago, I asked subscribers to take a survey to help me serve you better.

The survey was a great success!

Thank you to everyone who participated. xoxo

Here are the results...

My first question was about how you found me.

How did you find me and my website?

My goal is to tighten up my marketing strategies and drop the promotional efforts that aren't helping me.

I had my suspicions about how these numbers would play out and I was correct about almost everything!

#1. Leolist

63% of you said that you found me through Leolist. Thank you! Now, I don't feel so bad for spending money on that platform. LOL

#2. Twitter

18% of you said that you found me on Twitter! I am so bad at Twitter, but this gives me a new reason to get more comfortable with it. You can find my twitter at @tntannie

#3. Other

This is the one that surprised me!

12% of you didn't find me online.

When I read your comments, it became clear that you found me through real life.

You "others" found me in the strip club before I started working out of an in-call space. Or we were friends and I invited you to try out my services.

When I first started doing sensual massage, I reached out to the men in my life because I was nervous about seeing strangers.

Those of you who helped me get the hang of my new business and cheered me on... well, you have a special place in my heart.

#4. PERB

7% of you found me on a review site called PERB. 

I saw a good review of me about 1-2 years ago on there but I have no idea if anything else has been said about me since then.

I made the decision to not advertise there anymore or look for reviews about me. I've seen too many providers get devastated by the hurtful comments posted about them on PERB.

I tried advertising on PERB briefly when I first started, but it didn't compare to Leolist in getting me bookings. 

Also, it's expensive and I have to log-in and join the community to really get any traction out of it. I'm a busy mom with no time for that!   

In this survey, one of you specified that a positive PERB review about me is what gave you the push to make a booking with me.

That seems like a good thing and I am grateful for any kind words spoken about me...

...but I'd like to share my feelings about review boards with you all, for a moment...

The thing is, no provider is going to be perfect for everyone.

Right now, there is a positive review about me on PERB. But next week, who knows?

I believe clients should share with each other when they've been ripped off or taken advantage of by someone posing as a professional provider. 

I am in favour of this because I want clients to feel safe when they come to see me. Predators posing as sex workers give my business a bad name.

It's the petty reviews about how the provider smelled or looked or what she was willing or not willing to do... those reviews are repulsive to me.

Just because a provider was not right for you, does not mean she won't be amazing for another person.

We are human beings, so we may not always be at our best no matter how hard we try.

I've had clients who were definitely not ideal for me. But they would be great clients for someone who offers what they're looking for.

I'm not going to make an online review criticizing a client just because the experience was less than perfect for me!

Can you imagine if we (sex workers) posted your phone numbers on some website and rated your looks, breath, personality, and whatever else we could think of to humiliate you and intentionally disrupt your business? 

We don't do that.

And you shouldn't do it either.

Consider this: I am also a client, so I know what it's like to spend a few hundred dollars for a fantasy experience and then be disappointed.

However, I would never trash that provider just because they weren't the right fit for me and what I was looking for.

No! I will give them the respect they deserve and a tip. And then, I will exercise my right to not book with them again.

Someone else might find that provider absolutely perfect for them.

If you want to write a positive review about me, please send it to me as a "testimonial" and I will post it on my website!

#5. Instagram

Only 5% of you said you found me on Instagram. It is a small number and I am relieved to see that because I have deactivated my Instagram account. Their new terms and conditions are ridiculous. 

My next question was about your hair preferences.

I'm growing out my hair and I usually wear a wig for massage sessions. If you saw a photo of me with straight blonde hair and my hair was different when you met me (curly, shorter but still blonde), would you feel disappointed?

Out of 37 respondents to this question, one person preferred long hair. Another said he prefers straight hair and would be disappointed. Two said, maybe it would matter.

33 of you said it would be no problem or that you prefer natural. WIN!

I've decided based on these answers that I will wear my natural hair on good hair days and my wig on bad hair days! LOL

What hours are best for you when seeing a provider?

I was extremely happy to see that the exact hours that I am usually available are the best hours for most of you!

Weekday afternoons are in the lead with weekday mornings coming in a close second. Mornings and afternoons on weekends were next.

These are my hours!

Very rarely, I will do an evening booking for clients. 

However, I am available most weekends because there are amazing clients I want to see who can only see me on the weekends.

What keeps you coming back for more? Why do you see a provider more than once? What is the secret ingredient that makes you crave a certain provider repeatedly?

Connection is the new Boobs! So many of you said “connection” is what keeps you coming back. I gotta agree. It’s what makes me invite you back too!

The next most common trait you are looking for in a provider is comfort. Are you comfortable with me? Or do you have a hard time relaxing? 

Comfort is very important for me too! I can relax and be more horny when I feel comfortable with a client. That’s why I love my regulars so much!

And of course, many of you mentioned chemistry!

Isn’t chemistry amazing? I can usually tell if I have it with a client before he even turns over for his front massage! But sometimes it sneaks up and surprises me. 

What is especially amazing about chemistry is that it is not based on what you are usually attracted to at all. It is chemical. 

So, if you and I wouldn’t normally travel in the same circles or perhaps our age difference is quite pronounced, we could still have incredible chemistry together.

Chemistry is always a welcome bonus when I meet a new client and it’s there. 

Here are some of my favourite responses to this question. I have the best regulars ever!

"It’s quite simple for me... the connection that I have with you. You possess a total package of not only physical beauty but it’s the beauty within you as well. You have such positive energy that it makes me want to come see you especially when I’m not feeling like myself. A visit with you helps me feel good and positive and I value that."

Aww, you make me feel this way too!

"Not to put too fine a point on it... You. Read your own ads. Everything I love about you is in there. Beauty, charm, warmth, kindness, intimate, caring, conversation, closeness, cuddling, and a fucking awesome massage."

I'm so flattered for such kind words. xoxo

"As I said, I have only seen you twice... No secret ingredient Annie, just your personality."

What a wonderful thing to say. Thank you.

"Because you make me feel like we have a special connection. I mean, your skills and your body are amazing. Your face is gorgeous. I love your personality. And all that plus you make me feel like I'm the only one :) even though you talk about other clients, and obviously this is what you do for a living. But still..... I feel like I love you - without being weird about it."

Wow! So much love. I love you too. XOXO

"You are the only provider I have seen more than once, and I intend to see many more times! I'm usually an awkward person when it comes to social situations but I just felt very comfortable around you. When I left my first session with you I could not stop thinking about my time with you and couldn't wait to book another. Your sessions give me exactly the kind of intimate experience I crave that I've not experienced with any other provider before."

Thank you so much! I read this comment over several times because it made me feel so good. I crave that intimate feeling as well.

I asked for regulars to leave their names if they’re comfortable and one of you left an interesting comment but no name and it piqued my curiousity!

Here is the comment: 

"I haven’t seen you and can’t see you. We have mutual friends. I was following you, even planned on seeing you. Then the universe decided different."

Who are you? Who are our mutual friends? Why does it matter that we have mutual friends? And why are you so mysterious?!

Whoever you are, please reach out with these answers!

I had a photo shoot with
Jonny Ray on the weekend!


I had a photo shoot on the weekend with Jonny Ray. It is the first pro shoot I've had since Covid hit.

The images will be ready for next week's blog post!

I used these photos as inspiration for this shoot:

I hope you check them out next week! I think you'll like them. xoxo

Love Annie

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Sex Drive in Overdrive and I'm Getting a Roommate!

I am so horny these days!  Can menopause make a person HORNIER? Everything turns me on.  I'm masturbating so much and thinking about so ...